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Tuesday, 11 January 2011

The risk of sub drop after a bdsm session

Just read a great blog post about 'sub drop' and this is something which is important to remember when you're playing. I feel that the more intense the play and the 'high' has been, the greater is the risk of a negative experience afterwards. That's the time when it is so important to be together, just Master and slave, devoting time to each other. Right now I am fortunate in that I am having Master with me for a while and after a session we always take much time cuddling, kissing and just relaxing together. Sex may have been a part of the session when it were at its height but when coming back to earth it's so wonderful just feeling the nearness of each other.

Master has never left me just after a session and I know He never will. Therefore I have never experienced the bad feelings of sub drop, either. But I can imagine it can be quite a negative experience and the aftercare is most important. Last week was one of daily canings and long periods of landing together afterwards.

How about 'dom drop'? Is there such a thing? Does it work in the same way? What do you say as a Dom? Have you ever felt bad after leaving your sub too early after a session? It would be interesting if you could comment on your experiences as this is an unknown world to me.

As for the blog post it came from the great Diary of a Kinky Librarian by Nadia West. Do visit her blog and say hello from me.