Just read a great blog post about 'sub drop' and this is something which is important to remember when you're playing. I feel that the more intense the play and the 'high' has been, the greater is the risk of a negative experience afterwards. That's the time when it is so important to be together, just Master and slave, devoting time to each other. Right now I am fortunate in that I am having Master with me for a while and after a session we always take much time cuddling, kissing and just relaxing together. Sex may have been a part of the session when it were at its height but when coming back to earth it's so wonderful just feeling the nearness of each other.
Master has never left me just after a session and I know He never will. Therefore I have never experienced the bad feelings of sub drop, either. But I can imagine it can be quite a negative experience and the aftercare is most important. Last week was one of daily canings and long periods of landing together afterwards.
How about 'dom drop'? Is there such a thing? Does it work in the same way? What do you say as a Dom? Have you ever felt bad after leaving your sub too early after a session? It would be interesting if you could comment on your experiences as this is an unknown world to me.
As for the blog post it came from the great Diary of a Kinky Librarian by Nadia West. Do visit her blog and say hello from me.
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Hello Tina,
I must admit there is such a thing as "dom Drop"..or "top drop". Personally I have experienced it in the past where I have felt I have given a punishment that is too harsh and does not fit the offence. To me it stems from coming to grips with doing something "terrible" to a submissive...even if she enjoyed it - The internal struggle of kinky play vs doing things that you would not even think of doing outside of the kink world. I personally think it can be prevented in the same way as sub drop, it makes you feel as if the submissive does not harbour any hard feelings towards you as a person.
Jason
wow. super nice story.
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